Just where do you start when deciding to trust people? It’s so easy to get hurt. It can be difficult to decide who is truly genuine and who is fake. Someone who has a hidden agenda will do everything in their power to bring you into their fairy tale. You need to be on high alert. Surrounding yourself with people who have good values, a strong head on their shoulders and are loyal to a fault is essential for moving forward in life. But you have to ask yourself this question: are they actually the person they portray themselves to be? Here are some helpful hints that could help you separate a fake person from a genuine one.
Respectful vs. Condescending: Someone who is genuine will do everything in their power to respect everything and anyone. They take a person’s feelings into consideration and will do everything in their power to make someone feel comfortable no matter the situation. Someone who has a fake personality will only respect those who are in power because they always want to gain something out of any situation. So, if a person needs to put on some acting skills to get what they want, they will.
Seek No Recognition vs. Needing Recognition: When it comes to making someone happy, a genuine individual will never go out of their way to get recognition; all they want is for the person to be happy. Sometimes they will keep their actions hidden. Fake people are the total opposite. They will do everything in their power to help you and tell everyone about it because they want to be seen as the favorite and they want everyone to know it.
Hidden vs. Spotlight: Spending time alone can do wonders for the mind, and genuine people understand that. They have no problem staying in their comfort zone, even if that means spending hours alone. People around them respect and understand their decisions and will often follow their lead at times. Fake people are the total opposite. They crave attention and will do whatever they need to stay in the spotlight because they believe that the world revolves around them.
Humble vs. Conceited: It’s nice to be recognized for special achievements in life, but nobody likes a bragger. That is why genuine people are humbled by their achievements and prefer not talking about them. They would much rather hear about other people’s achievements. Because fake people need to be the center of attention, they will constantly brag about their achievements. You might even hear them tell the same story more than once. They need to be the alpha of the group at all times.
In Front of You Vs. Behind You: If someone is a genuine individual and they have something to say about you, they will tell you to your face. They have no hidden motive and respect you enough to tell you. They hope that the conversation will resolve any issue that may have surfaced. Fake people are cowards when it comes to confrontation. They will smile when they see you, but the second you turn your back, you become their enemy. They love to gossip and enjoy drama.
Walk vs. Talk: Someone with a genuine personality will do everything in their power to not break a promise. If they do not follow through with it, they take ownership of it and do not resort to excuses. A fake person will talk a big game and will rarely come through. Unlike a genuine person, a fake person will give you a long list of excuses, and you might even notice that they will constantly use the same ones.
Imperfection vs. Perfection: Genuine people are always looking to learn new lessons from others. They are also very gracious and admirable to people. They know that they’re not perfect and will thank someone anytime they learn something from them. Fake people will go out of their way to be critical in any situation. They will constantly be looking for mistakes people make and will criticize them for it. They feel accomplished when they are able to spot mistakes.
No Ulterior Motives vs. Ulterior Motives: When someone with a genuine personality helps you, it’s because they want to. They don’t need any recognition or any praise, they want to make sure that you’re happy and safe. Fake people have that “I scratch your back you scratch mine” type of mentality. If they help you, they want something in return. If they sense that there is no reciprocation, they won’t lift a finger.
This was a eye opener for me when I was researching this. I look back at people I have known, and I see some of these things in people that I was not able to trust. I wish I had this insight a few years ago. It sure would have saved some heartaches and trouble.
